In addition, you can create a happy, fulfilling marriage
The secret marriage of a large,
If not all a secret.
My husband and I were married in 1965, raised a family and still feel about each other as if we were married. Wives, spouses and married couples who know how often we ask something like: "What is the secret of your relationship and happy marriage?"
Since I write for the newlyweds and married couples, I thought, this is awrite important issue.
The first time you decide to get married, it was very much in love. And 'to keep this flame, so that you do not need off. If you do, you can also enjoy the happiness of the completion of a happy marriage. But how do you know?
There are many aspects of married life and all are crucial. Some couples see the movie for the fairytale wedding, where everything is always rosy and beautiful. In reality, namely that one should never give your spouse applied for and granted, thatEach of you must give more than 100 percent but less than expected.
Of high priority is that you make your wedding the most important part of your life and your spouse the most important person. Never compromise the place of marriage or your spouse in relation to anything else.
We often say that young married first. We say that the only exception is your spouse. Finally, your children are invited to your wedding. Guests, who eventually leavesempty nesters. Once again, I'm a married couple without children at home. If your flame still burning? Go!
The following are suggestions that the results of our experiences as husband and wife.
Set aside time for each other
We are all very busy. Our days, weeks, months and years are filled with many obligations and responsibilities that require our time and energy. From work to keep house, to socialize children and volunteering also ourCalendar is full. But we make sure to spend special time for each other. Should not be a big block of time. A phone call during the day just to say "I love you," I miss you "or" I was thinking of you "or the placing of a love note in your spouse does not drive not long, but warms the heart.
Praise, praise and encourage each other to
It needs not only a moment to share the kind words, compliments, praise and encouragement. But they are very important for a largeValue. Both my husband and I have and continue to tell us how grateful, how happy, how happy and satisfied as we are, because other people as partners in life. Yes! Marrying my husband is the best thing that ever happened to me.
There may be opportunities for feelings such as:
"You are great.
I like your ...
I'm proud of you ...
Your idea is great. They should be followed.
Thanks for your input really helps.
I am happy toasked your opinion.
It's my life complete.
What would I do without you?
etc. ..
Things to do together
It 's always fun to be with. How to find things that you can take both and together. Show that the visit or housework, or go on vacation you can not get closer than to each other and exchange, showing interest and participation, which is important for your partner.
Take, for example, Chiho. He doesnot particularly like going to the movies. Surprisingly, Dan, when she found him to see a movie he wanted to see.
The way things together is key to a great marriage, it is important to remember that sometimes we all need our space. Do not hang around forever. Treat your spouse own space.
DO for each other
It is expected that married couples will remember and celebrate each other on special occasions like birthdays,Holidays and anniversaries. Our success is easy to remember, as we already have 4 July.But the beauty and warmth of a surprise all married. Small and large gestures, without fanfare did say "I love you and think of you." And "You are important to me."
Again, no need to be rich to any other acts of kindness go a long way to surprise. Neither my husband nor I ever caught, the other sitting with a diamond ring or a new car in the driveway. We just doLittle things for each other, sometimes serious sometimes humorous, but always with love. In fact, just yesterday my husband went in with a beautiful bonsai tree in a pot and said, "When I saw this beautiful little tree that I thought of you and what you like."
Put on your thinking cap and come up with ideas that appeal to your partner and your love is reflected.
Take your partner by surprise in a day just for pleasure.
Set a special table, and if you do not have childrenCandles for a romantic setting.
home a box of chocolates, a bottle of wine or champagne, a dessert, a spouse may bring a book he or she enjoy a movie to see how together.Or a bonsai tree?.
Bring your spouse, a stuffed animal, a piggy bank for the bathroom to change that falls out of the pockets, a flower or a card.
Surprise your spouse with a new outfit or sexy lingerie and he will appreciate the moment.
Prepare a bubble bath for yourUN suspicious wife, complete with romantic candles and thank you for your attention.
Heat the spouse the car on a cold morning.
Make this the housework.
You know what your spouse appreciate and enjoy. Use your imagination and surprise him or her.
Personality traits
We are all human and nobody is perfect. Every marriage is two individuals with unique personality traits, some beautiful and some routes. Yes! We all have our faults. SoHow we treat defective trains still love, respect and be thankful for our spouse?
Instead of criticizing, do our best to understand each other and turn the problem into a positive.
We say that others are thinking about your spouse sensitive. Why not describe him or her as sensitive?
How about turning the tables by a manipulative person that a person who is very inventive with many creative ideas?
Got a picky spouse? Or he or she is very well organized andefficiently?
Your spouse is not chaotic. He or she is simply very creative and creative people work best when they are limited.
Again, you know your spouse better than anyone else. Be creative.
Talking about personality traits raises the question of differences of opinion. Since each of us is an individual, everyone has opinions and ideas that can vary and even conflict with our spouse. This can lead to disputes and even fights. to build anger and resentment and canImpact on the relationship. If you allow this? Absolutely not!
Act mature about the differences of opinion and do not degenerate and real battles.
Ask our sons in their thirties, and say that we do not remember ever fighting or exchange of harsh words, we raise our voice. This is allowed because we never had a difference of opinion on more than one topic. And we made our arguments with a cup of coffee.
It 'important that the solutionMisunderstandings and arguments and kiss and make-up before going to bed.
Never sleep the other furiously.
ALWAYS kiss and say "I love you" before going to sleep.
Show affection
Some people, regardless of affection in public, while others are reserved. But we all like and need the assurance that we are loved.
Small gestures of love even as small as a touch unexpected kiss, or can even a pat on the head and tickled usButterflies. Think about how you feel when you watch TV or computer and your spouse plants a kiss on the back of the neck or hands a loving hand on her head or back, and leaves the room. That's right! He or she entered the room, just to touch with love. So how do you feel towards him?
Always Stand By Your Man - WOMAN
If it were not for the encouragement of my husband, patience, understanding and support I would never have written this book because Inot come into contact with weddings.
The books I wrote and published, would Candles, A and Nilych wedding day is born, if not for his love and care, interest and dedication to the real happy to see me.
Although not see my husband, we can in this way has made many sacrifices to allow me to pursue my dreams. I am and will always be grateful to him.
Many couples are and will, and we encountered some rough spots in our marriage. Some, such as a longer periodUnemployment could have led us to separate, because of our deep love and devotion to each other, brought us closer to them. We were each other how we "praise for the mercy and care mutual understanding that" this too shall pass "and that we stay together and prosper.
We are not angels, and each of us made some mistakes along the route. We could have angry and upset with others. However, we have the way of rationalization. Our usual response hasis that we learned an important lesson, it cost us less than we experience in teaching and Chuck and continue with life.
As the author of this article, I concentrated on my husband and what he did to strengthen our marriage, I found that we should not blow my own trumpet.
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